I had a reader ask me to post a question. She wanted to know when is the time in a friendship when you decide that you are putting more into the relationship than your friend is?
Have you ever had a relationship in which you feel as though you are always the one to call, always the one to text, always the one to email?
I am going to admit something here… I am not a very good friend. I am the friend that waits for others to call. (Don’t believe me just as my friend from Florida…) I want so badly to be liked that I hate the fear of rejection that comes with calling someone else to see if they want to do something. I am the friend that says, “let’s get together sometime!” And then, the next time I see you, a year later I say, “let’s get together sometime.”
This is something that I work on continuously… and something that I fear will never be fully completed in me. Although, I do have to say that I am getting better. I have had friends whom have stopped asking me to do things, and I don’t blame them.
The Bible tells us that a friend loves at all times. To many this means that we love in the good, the bad, the happy, and the sad. This means you love your friends when they can’t love themselves. But, does that love have a limit? And, maybe not just the love, but your willingness to always be the one putting out the effort.
I have really been thinking and praying about this for the last few weeks since my friend spoke to me about it, and I am just not sure how I feel. On one hand, if I am in her situation I don’t want to be the one always making the effort. However, on the other hand I know that for me, personally, I don’t want my friends to give up on me.